Song download and another IOs related question

iOS and iPadOS

Hi all. Long story short, I put a couple of games on my dad's phone, he got a message something along the lines o, Do you want to use this device for automatic downloads? He ignored it, deleted it, now any song I get is synced fine with the Mac, it's my account, but it's stuck "Waiting", sitting in the downloads tab of itunes. Can anyone help? If i have to reset something that's fine. Also does anyone know the easiest way to browse to text alert tones? Using the Mac, I meant. Thanks so mcuh.